What should I do guys?

[AJCasey]

I have been seeing a guy for the past few weeks, and he has been wonderful to me and my kids, but I think he is not all what he seems.

Basically to cut a long story short, I met him online threw a dating/chat site, and had spoke to him for 3 months prior to meeting up with him, but we only get to see each other at weekends. Now he is only 30 mins drive from me and really he should make more effort to see me, dont you think? He says that during the week is bad for him because he has commitements. Now he only works 3 days of the week, and everytime I phone him to see if he fancies meeting up he makes a excuse like "I have to visit my parents, or I have to meet someone to discuss business.

Now I could be paranoid and lacking some self confidence, but if you really want to be with someone, would you not make the effort?

Also whenever his phone rings, he gets all panicky and quickly answers the phone, and when I ask who it was, he says either "It was work" or a "mate. Now speaking with a friend of mine, she said he is either cheating on me, or is GAY!! Now I think sometimes people in a relationship like there own space, and time to chill to themeselfs, and he does enjoy being independant, and not one to stick to plans, but I have my kids to think of and dont want someone who wont make the effort to spend time with them too.

What do you think everyone? What could he be upto, or thinking?

Thnx

 

[chikaraboy]

Oh darling this sounds like you may be being played or its you being paranoid. I am not trying to be personal but have you had a rough ride before with guys? It does sound like he is giving you the cold shoulder, but with some guys including myself, i like my time to myself and time to sit and chill without distractions. I have my girlfriend and love her dearly, but even we give ourselfs a break as it makes the hear grow fonder.

I would not go jumping the gun just yet but be wary of his movements. Also dont let him know you are worried, just stay relaxed and act normal. I hope i helped you in some way.

 

[AKI Man]

I have been seeing a guy for the past few weeks, and he has been wonderful to me and my kids, but I think he is not all what he seems.

Basically to cut a long story short, I met him online threw a dating/chat site, and had spoke to him for 3 months prior to meeting up with him, but we only get to see each other at weekends. Now he is only 30 mins drive from me and really he should make more effort to see me, dont you think? He says that during the week is bad for him because he has commitements. Now he only works 3 days of the week, and everytime I phone him to see if he fancies meeting up he makes a excuse like "I have to visit my parents, or I have to meet someone to discuss business.

Now I could be paranoid and lacking some self confidence, but if you really want to be with someone, would you not make the effort?

Also whenever his phone rings, he gets all panicky and quickly answers the phone, and when I ask who it was, he says either "It was work" or a "mate. Now speaking with a friend of mine, she said he is either cheating on me, or is GAY!! Now I think sometimes people in a relationship like there own space, and time to chill to themeselfs, and he does enjoy being independant, and not one to stick to plans, but I have my kids to think of and dont want someone who wont make the effort to spend time with them too.

What do you think everyone? What could he be upto, or thinking?

Thnx

Hire a private detective hun!! :help:

 

[Deleted User]

Don't hire a private detective, that's over-kill by about a million. Honestly, what you should do is this:

Tell him everything you just told us. If he's a decent fellow he'll appreciate the honesty.

Keep your guard, you said it has only been a few weeks, plus, you met him via the internet. The only times I've met someone over the internet it ended in a few hook ups, or never even got off the ground.

Don't compromise what makes you yourself. The best advice I can give. :hi

 

[Blue Warrior]

AJ, I can see your problem. I agree with chikaraboy, he's either cheating on you, or you're just paranoid and scared of being cheated. But there's a third option. Maybe he's just very very very very very very busy .

Just talk with him about this and ask him openly what's going on, if he's a guy for you he will openly discuss about it, if he's not....well......then don't even bother wasting your time with him, there are plenty of other guys in this world.

I hope everything turns out well.

 

[dabaddguy]

Well sweetheart, it may be a little of all of the above, or it may be just being protective from being betrayed before a time or 3,but you know what? I never ask a woman who's on the phone, I never ask them ultimatum questions as I don't like them myself, I'd like to think their's a log between man and woman, if you back up, he MUST come forward, and the HE may be some other man you'll attract while being out with one who's eyes are somewhere else, then you have HIM to thank,LOL. You see only a king know how to treat a queen, and viceversa. We all want our soul mates, but did we know that their's 3? Their's a retro-bution soul mate, a boundary soul mate and a spiritual soul mate. Now I'll explain each one...a retribution soul mate is one that is all in all a hellaciuos experience with few or no periods of good times, a boundary soul mate is all in all a great experience though there are small problems and minor adjustments(those are the boundary's)and then when retribution is payed up THEN and ONLY THEN your eligible to meet your spiritual soul mate. Your spiritual Soul mate will be half your spirit, they shall think as you think, they shall be as you are, and most of all you'll go through things together and not apart. So look at you mates people as miss or mr. RIGHT NOW if these things arise, and have fun with them because you aren't going to play with no toys you don't wanna play with....and besides take a picture of them 'cause they may not be there long,LOL. Now let's do this UNIVERSAL TRUTH thing God has me to do as the truth can be put in every situation and come out true...out of ALL the magnuts in the world there's only 3, two of them will stick instantly while the other two when paired together will ALWAYS have a force between them. Think about it, so enjoy them and remember...control them without controlling them by remember the log treatment(smiles I had to)if you go forward( who's that? why don't you come over)they'll go backwards( I gotta meeting, I gotta go to my parents)but if you go backwards(be really fun and sexy with no pressure) then he'll come forward(hey sweetheart I noticed you don't ask me to come over anymore is everything ok? Are you busy tonight)Try it for awhile...IT WORKS!!!

 

[AKI Man]

Don't hire a private detective, that's over-kill by about a million. Honestly, what you should do is this:

Tell him everything you just told us. If he's a decent fellow he'll appreciate the honesty.

Keep your guard, you said it has only been a few weeks, plus, you met him via the internet. The only times I've met someone over the internet it ended in a few hook ups, or never even got off the ground.

Don't compromise what makes you yourself. The best advice I can give. :hi

I was joking bro! It was late at night and was messing around.

Seriously, follow everyones else's advice, im sure things will be ok AJ hun. :hi

 

[dabaddguy]

Don't hire a private detective, that's over-kill by about a million. Honestly, what you should do is this:

Tell him everything you just told us. If he's a decent fellow he'll appreciate the honesty.

Keep your guard, you said it has only been a few weeks, plus, you met him via the internet. The only times I've met someone over the internet it ended in a few hook ups, or never even got off the ground.

Don't compromise what makes you yourself. The best advice I can give. :hi

I was joking bro! It was late at night and was messing around.

Seriously, follow everyones else's advice, im sure things will be ok AJ hun. :hi

Now that's true, and good sound advice.